Modern culture has instilled in us a wonderful propensity for shifting blame. Whether it's people who spend ten bucks every day for a Starbucks concoction and who never cook at home complaining about not earning enough money to pay their rent, or women setting ridiculous standards and then complaining that there are no dateable men out there, we are surrounded by individuals who choose not to consider that their own behaviors are the problem.
Being on time in the military is (or at least was, who knows how they operate today) a "hard rule": repeat offenders were disciplined initially, and if the problem persisted, they were separated from service. We can't run wars or battles contingent on some random interpretation of "time". The same is largely true of businesses - doors can't open without staff, production lines don't move, surgeries don't commence, etc... Fortunately in our market based economy, there is an abundance of jobs and career options, some of which might even accommodate the time-blind. Let them go find THAT job!
Quite agree Peter. I was reading the other day about a woman with a daughter suffering from a multitude of DSM issues. The mother listened to therapists repeatedly tell her not to punish her daughter's worst behaviours (which included hitting her mother), insisting it was her autism and she couldn't help it. The mother finally began implementing consequences--taking away screen time, etc--and the bad behaviour stopped.
So many parents fear difficult conversations with their kids, myself include. It's hard being the disciplinary one but as they say--doing the hard stuff makes life easy... and vice versa.
A great analogy and summary of what is happening in society in general. The "everyone needs to accommodate me and my beliefs crowd" who generally refer to themselves as "woke" need a serious wake-up call. Reality doesn't bend to you; you need to accede to it. Get over yourself, suck it up, take responsibility.
The realm of psychology is rife with pseudo-science like this self-diagnosis of "time blindness," and unfortunately there are not nearly enough people within the field challenging this nonsense. The "trauma" people aren't helping the situation.
If they took a personality inventory, I'll bet the "time blind" people will find they are actually just have very low conscientiousness, and high neuroticism/emotionality. Combine personality flaws with chronically low on energy due to sedentary lifestyle, bad diet, and poor sleep habits, and you have a recipe for exactly what we see:
Young people who feel like they can't handle normal life, who feel like it's not their fault, and who demand others accommodate their "condition."
I propose a solution
Step 1: new TikTok challenge to get in bed before 10:30pm every night for the next month with no screens.
Step 2: new TikTok challenge to do a full body workout 2X+ a week for two months.
Probably after step one most of these youths will find they suddenly have way more energy to devote to the difficult task of showing up. The remainder will be sorted out after step 2, after which it'll go on autopilot for most.
Hear, hear! Punctuality is a hard, fast rule of mine and always has been. My parents valued it, my school demanded it. It was indoctrinated in me at a young age, it was considered the height of rudeness and arrogance that I would consider my time more valuable than others. I plan extra drive time, parking time, etc to arrive 5-10 minutes early. Being late stresses me to my limits! Warren can attest to it. When I find myself running late I become a different person. I have consciously tried to relax a little about it, but to no avail. The acceptance of labeling chronic lateness contributes to the erosion of courtesy and civility in our culture.
I have heard the term "time-blindness" before. To me it's yet another excuse for young people to slack off in life. A few of my younger coworkers seem to suffer from this malady and it irks me to no end. Especially when it affects my work
Being on time in the military is (or at least was, who knows how they operate today) a "hard rule": repeat offenders were disciplined initially, and if the problem persisted, they were separated from service. We can't run wars or battles contingent on some random interpretation of "time". The same is largely true of businesses - doors can't open without staff, production lines don't move, surgeries don't commence, etc... Fortunately in our market based economy, there is an abundance of jobs and career options, some of which might even accommodate the time-blind. Let them go find THAT job!
Quite agree Peter. I was reading the other day about a woman with a daughter suffering from a multitude of DSM issues. The mother listened to therapists repeatedly tell her not to punish her daughter's worst behaviours (which included hitting her mother), insisting it was her autism and she couldn't help it. The mother finally began implementing consequences--taking away screen time, etc--and the bad behaviour stopped.
So many parents fear difficult conversations with their kids, myself include. It's hard being the disciplinary one but as they say--doing the hard stuff makes life easy... and vice versa.
A great analogy and summary of what is happening in society in general. The "everyone needs to accommodate me and my beliefs crowd" who generally refer to themselves as "woke" need a serious wake-up call. Reality doesn't bend to you; you need to accede to it. Get over yourself, suck it up, take responsibility.
The realm of psychology is rife with pseudo-science like this self-diagnosis of "time blindness," and unfortunately there are not nearly enough people within the field challenging this nonsense. The "trauma" people aren't helping the situation.
If they took a personality inventory, I'll bet the "time blind" people will find they are actually just have very low conscientiousness, and high neuroticism/emotionality. Combine personality flaws with chronically low on energy due to sedentary lifestyle, bad diet, and poor sleep habits, and you have a recipe for exactly what we see:
Young people who feel like they can't handle normal life, who feel like it's not their fault, and who demand others accommodate their "condition."
I propose a solution
Step 1: new TikTok challenge to get in bed before 10:30pm every night for the next month with no screens.
Step 2: new TikTok challenge to do a full body workout 2X+ a week for two months.
Probably after step one most of these youths will find they suddenly have way more energy to devote to the difficult task of showing up. The remainder will be sorted out after step 2, after which it'll go on autopilot for most.
Hear, hear! Punctuality is a hard, fast rule of mine and always has been. My parents valued it, my school demanded it. It was indoctrinated in me at a young age, it was considered the height of rudeness and arrogance that I would consider my time more valuable than others. I plan extra drive time, parking time, etc to arrive 5-10 minutes early. Being late stresses me to my limits! Warren can attest to it. When I find myself running late I become a different person. I have consciously tried to relax a little about it, but to no avail. The acceptance of labeling chronic lateness contributes to the erosion of courtesy and civility in our culture.
I have heard the term "time-blindness" before. To me it's yet another excuse for young people to slack off in life. A few of my younger coworkers seem to suffer from this malady and it irks me to no end. Especially when it affects my work
Can you please send this to my wife anonymously?